Ray Pigott 
Whether you have been married for a long time or this is your first meaningful relationship, things can still go wrong. If you have children involved, then this is a top priority. Chances are that you have already spoken to family solicitors who can further advise you. Firstly you must accept the situation. Experiencing a disappointment in love is always a traumatic event. Saying goodbye to your first relationship or to the third relationship that causes exactly the same pain, the same doubt. There is no magic technique to rationalize a breakup especially if children are involved.
Restoring your life after the divorce requires above all to mourn your relationship. Being able to analyze what went wrong and why is an important step too. Sometimes people are able to do it on their own but you should seek out help if you’re struggling. Never suffer in silence. You can ask for help on forums or through your GP. You can freely express your emotions to a neutral person. It is not easy to change your lifestyle if you’re used to being with someone. However, what if you are finally finding a new you – a new dream you want to pursue, or that you actually have enjoyed being on your own for a while. There are always silver linings. Divorce isn’t easy but you can get through it.
Build back after divorce
Trying new things can help with your mental health. A new hobby, or something creative such as art and music can be great! You could look at other ways to feel better, such as travel. For some, sport is a way to rebuild after the end of a relationship. Indulging your body and soul in an activity is a good way to clear your mind. Trying out a new sport or starting a sport you played before your marriage are good ways to find yourself. Perhaps you want to try Pilates or Yoga, or something more active such as boxing! Focusing on yourself is essential after a breakup because it allows you to realise the importance of your self worth. Also playing sports is also a good way to regain self-confidence. In general, adopting a healthier lifestyle is beneficial for your physical but also mental health. You feel better about yourself and your confidence is duplicated. Gradually, you will feel more confident and attractive to start new relationships later. The time to love again will come around, but you should not force it. It will happen naturally, when it is meant to. Give yourself a little time to heal.
Thirty years ago, rebuilding your life after a long divorce was deemed impossible but today, we live in a new world where there are so many more opportunities and ways to meet new people. Divorce has become more common unfortunately, and so marriage doesn’t necessarily mean spending your whole life with that person. Most importantly, it’s never too late to start over, regardless of your age. No matter how old you are, you are never alone, and it is possible to find your bliss again.
